How to Deal with a Stubborn 6–7 Year Old Child

🧒 Understanding Stubbornness in Children

Stubbornness is a common trait in 6–7-year-old children. At this age, kids start asserting their independence and forming their own identity. Some, however, show a more intense form of stubbornness that challenges both parents and caregivers.

💡 What Makes a Child Stubborn?

Here are key characteristics often seen in stubborn children:

Strong-willed & opinionated: They know what they want and aren’t afraid to speak up—even to authority figures. Determined & persistent: They work hard for what they want and don’t give up easily. Independent: They want to make their own decisions and resist being controlled. Low frustration tolerance: They get upset when things don’t go their way, often leading to tantrums. Argumentative or bossy: They frequently say “no,” reject instructions, or challenge rules. Emotionally intense: They may get angry quickly or refuse to compromise. Observant & analytical: They notice everything around them and are often very insightful.

Not all children will show all of these traits, and stubbornness in moderation can actually be a strength. With the right guidance, stubborn children can grow into strong, determined, successful adults.

✅ How to Deal with a Stubborn Child

Stay Calm and Positive: Losing your temper only escalates the conflict. Instead, breathe and try to understand their perspective. Offer Choices: Give them a sense of control. For example: “Would you like to wear the red shirt or the blue one?” Positive Reinforcement: Praise good behavior—no matter how small. Sticker charts and simple rewards can go a long way. Be Consistent: Don’t give in one day and enforce rules the next. Set clear expectations and follow through. Ignore Minor Misbehavior: Save your energy for what matters. Constant criticism may lead to rebellion. Use Time-Outs When Needed: For intense tantrums, a short break helps them cool down. Discuss the behavior afterward calmly.

💡 Additional Tips:

Use Humor: Sometimes a light-hearted joke defuses the tension. Practice Patience: Emotional control is something kids learn over time. Seek Professional Help if Needed: Pediatricians or child therapists can offer personalized support.

❤️ Nurturing a Healthy Parent-Child Relationship

A solid bond with your child makes it easier to handle challenges like stubbornness. Here are ways to strengthen that connection:

Spend Quality Time: Even 15 focused minutes a day makes a difference. Show Unconditional Love: Remind them that you’re there no matter what. Set Clear Rules & Expectations: Consistency builds trust and security. Communicate Openly: Listen with empathy. Try to understand their view of the world. Be a Role Model: Your actions teach more than your words.

👨‍👩‍👦 Fun Bonding Activities

Read books together Play games Cook as a team Talk about each other’s day Spend time outdoors Share laughs and hugs frequently

No child is perfect—and no parent is either. But with love, patience, and the right tools, you can raise a confident, emotionally secure, and respectful child.

By Maha Youssuf

Mama’s Guides Chief Editor